“How useless is this idea? How can I learn to be a better friend from some blog post?” Don’t worry. These thoughts have crossed my mind too. Below are some tips that I personally think is necessary for everyone. We are not perfect and we can never be perfect, so don’t blame yourself for messing up your friendship. There’s always a way out. So here are a few tips on how to be a better friend.
1. Be a Good Listener
Listening to your friend is very important. When you are listening to your friend, try to paraphrase and tell them what they are saying. This will ensure to your friend that you are truly listening. Also you will be able to clarify what your friend is telling you. Wait till your friend has told you everything they have to say and only then give your inputs. As an example chose to tell your own story over other people’s story. Before trying to help them, ask them to give suggestions on how you could help them.
2. Be There in Time of Need
This need is not just material. It could be sickness or the loss of someone special. We always need people around us, especially if we are going through a hard time. Being there for your friend, when they are going through a tough time is important. You could call or text them. If you are planing to visit them, then you could ask them before you show up at their door step.
When you hear that your friend is going through a hard time, think of yourself in that situation. And do for you friend what you wished your friends to do for you.
3. Own Up to Your Mistakes
This is important as it makes you a trustworthy person. This tip is not only important in friendships but in every relationship. Owning up to our mistake might seem humiliating at the moment, but it is worth. People might criticize you for the mistake you’ve done, but you will be appreciated for owning up to what you did. This shows your willingness to be taught and corrected. Most of us dislike the idea of being corrected, which is a natural human instinct. We learn to be open to corrections.
Is this something you struggle to do? Try harder! Your friends might dislike you for the moment, but I guarantee they will come around.
4. Warn Danger
We like the feeling when others approve of what we do and dislike when others don’t approve. As friends we are expected to support each other no matter what. But this does not have to be done all the time. If you see your friend doing something which is inappropriate and unacceptable you have to warn them. Because if you don’t warn them, then who will? It could be something they are doing out of pressure or because some think they are cool. Either way if it is harm to them, you should warn them. They might not approve of your input and they might cut you off on that topic but it is worth the try.
They key to a good friendship is honesty. So be honest no matter what!