Category Archives: Friendship

Tips on How to be a Better Friend

“How useless is this idea? How can I learn to be a better friend from some blog post?” Don’t worry. These thoughts have crossed my mind too. Below are some tips that I personally think is necessary for everyone. We are not perfect and we can never be perfect, so don’t blame yourself for messing up your friendship. There’s always a way out. So here are a few tips on how to be a better friend.

1. Be a Good Listener

Listening to your friend is very important. When you are listening to your friend, try to paraphrase and tell them what they are saying. This will ensure to your friend that you are truly listening. Also you will be able to clarify what your friend is telling you. Wait till your friend has told you everything they have to say and only then give your inputs. As an example chose to tell your own story over other people’s story. Before trying to help them, ask them to give suggestions on how you could help them.

2. Be There in Time of Need

This need is not just material. It could be sickness or the loss of someone special. We always need people around us, especially if we are going through a hard time. Being there for your friend, when they are going through a tough time is important. You could call or text them. If you are planing to visit them, then you could ask them before you show up at their door step.

When you hear that your friend is going through a hard time, think of yourself in that situation. And do for you friend what you wished your friends to do for you.

3. Own Up to Your Mistakes

This is important as it makes you a trustworthy person. This tip is not only important in friendships but in every relationship. Owning up to our mistake might seem humiliating at the moment, but it is worth. People might criticize you for the mistake you’ve done, but you will be appreciated for owning up to what you did. This shows your willingness to be taught and corrected. Most of us dislike the idea of being corrected, which is a natural human instinct. We learn to be open to corrections.

Is this something you struggle to do? Try harder! Your friends might dislike you for the moment, but I guarantee they will come around.

4. Warn Danger

We like the feeling when others approve of what we do and dislike when others don’t approve. As friends we are expected to support each other no matter what. But this does not have to be done all the time. If you see your friend doing something which is inappropriate and unacceptable you have to warn them. Because if you don’t warn them, then who will?  It could be something they are doing out of pressure or because some think they are cool. Either way if it is harm to them, you should warn them. They might not approve of your input and they might cut you off on that topic but it is worth the try. 

They key to a good friendship is honesty. So be honest no matter what!

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What I Learned About Friends

Friendships can be great or blah! Embrace the good ones and let loose the other. Here are three things I learned about friendships.

1. Take your time

When you meet a person for the first time you put out your best, and this is what every single person does. When you meet a person for the first time try you best not to tag them as your “friends “, because all you know is the best part of them. In a few weeks you will get to know their real deal and you might end up finding that the person you called your “friend” is not the right company for you. So make sure you don’t tie your strings too tight, which will make it hard for you to let go of that person. After a couple of weeks when you see mostly every side of them and if that is the kind of friend you want to hang around with then I there is less chance of you ending up hating that person for a wrong that they did, because you are sure that they have a lot of good in them.

2. Don’t be an open book

You don’t have to give your whole background to a new acquaintance. You don’t know if they are a gossiper or a user. You might feel like you can trust that person but your instincts could be wrong. People say its always good to trust your instincts but there are times when you shouldn’t trust them. Its ok to look reserved.

When people are sharing about their struggles to you, if you have gone through the same situation don’t mention it, help them without having to tell your past.

3. Cut your boundaries

Friends are good and essential. But too much dependence could be toxic. You should hang out with friends. You should find a friend that you can trust that you can open up to. You should be available for your friends at all times, but don’t be dependent on them like you would be with your parents. If you have  to study for a test or if you have an assignment which is due and your friends are calling you to watch a movie with them or to talk with them, you should tell them in a polite manner that you care for them but you cannot be their 24*7 entertainer. People will get annoyed at your change in priorities but they will come around and understand.