What I Learned About Friends

Friendships can be great or blah! Embrace the good ones and let loose the other. Here are three things I learned about friendships.

1. Take your time

When you meet a person for the first time you put out your best, and this is what every single person does. When you meet a person for the first time try you best not to tag them as your “friends “, because all you know is the best part of them. In a few weeks you will get to know their real deal and you might end up finding that the person you called your “friend” is not the right company for you. So make sure you don’t tie your strings too tight, which will make it hard for you to let go of that person. After a couple of weeks when you see mostly every side of them and if that is the kind of friend you want to hang around with then I there is less chance of you ending up hating that person for a wrong that they did, because you are sure that they have a lot of good in them.

2. Don’t be an open book

You don’t have to give your whole background to a new acquaintance. You don’t know if they are a gossiper or a user. You might feel like you can trust that person but your instincts could be wrong. People say its always good to trust your instincts but there are times when you shouldn’t trust them. Its ok to look reserved.

When people are sharing about their struggles to you, if you have gone through the same situation don’t mention it, help them without having to tell your past.

3. Cut your boundaries

Friends are good and essential. But too much dependence could be toxic. You should hang out with friends. You should find a friend that you can trust that you can open up to. You should be available for your friends at all times, but don’t be dependent on them like you would be with your parents. If you have  to study for a test or if you have an assignment which is due and your friends are calling you to watch a movie with them or to talk with them, you should tell them in a polite manner that you care for them but you cannot be their 24*7 entertainer. People will get annoyed at your change in priorities but they will come around and understand.

About Sharon Marie George

I have a bachelors degree in Psychology, English and Sociology, a Diploma in Clinical Pastoral Counseling and I am currently doing a Master's degree in Clinical Psychology View all posts by Sharon Marie George

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