Tips to Stay on Track Part- 5

     Be accountable

Some have a natural talent at getting things done on time. Still for some others there is a chance that we might get a little over confident and lose track. This is completely normal. Having an accountability partner will motivate us to get things done. The person you chose as your accountability partner is up to you. But this should be a person you meet at least on a weekly basis. Once you select your accountability partner, you have to allow them to question you if you fail to meet your deadline. That is you owe them an answer if you fail to keep up with your task. You have to explain your task to them and also inform them about your deadlines. Ask them to check on you at least twice a week prior to the deadline. It is good if you can also ask them to check on your work as that will force you to have something done at least to show them in case you feel lazy.

 

 


Tips to Stay on Track Part- 4

Turn off your mind

Our brain and body is not designed to be able to function without any rest. Thus even though you might have a long to-do list, you have to give your mind some rest. This rest will help you to rejuvenate yourself and also help you to be more productive and effective in every task you take part in.

Sleep is the best way to turn off your brain. During sleep your brain doesn’t shut down but it helps to consolidate everything you have previously learnt or read and thus making you more effective. But rest does not always have to be sleep. Your rest can comprise of doing something that you enjoy. This could be swimming, running, reading, cleaning your cluttered room, going for a walk, etc,. All this will help to relieve you of the stress you are feeling at the moment and make you more energetic, creative and fruitful.

If you don’t give your mind some rest then there is a great chance that you would get worked up and be unable to do any work at all. So in your to-do list add some activity or task that will help you turn off your mind and thereby helping you to rest yourself.


Tips to Stay on Track Part- 3

Review

It is easy to set goals. It is also easy to prioritize each goal by finding reasons. Still there is a chance that you would fall behind on the task. So it is necessary that you review your progress throughout the day or week.

If you fail to stay on track with the goals that you have set then you are going back to square one. So look through your to-do list several times throughout the day. If you are falling behind you might have to come up with a strategy to complete those tasks. But do not spend a lot of time making plans or you would have a great plan and literally no time to complete it. If you decide to do your review weekly, then you might have a little more time to come up with a strategy but I would still recommend that you take less time.

If you are unable stay on track and you see that you have other important tasks waiting for your attention, make a strategy that would help you save time. In a scenario where you have a whole lot of laundry to do and also a long list of people to call, what you could do is to put the clothes for laundry and then you could start calling those people. Most probably you would be able to complete them both at the same time, or you would be able to finish a whole lot of calling appointments. This was you could save time.


Tips to Stay on Track Part- 2

Prioritize

If you have decided to do something new, there is a possibility that after some time you might lose interest or fall behind in the task. One trick is to make the task a priority to you. Find out reasons of why you do something you do. You could come up with these reasons by yourself or ask someone else who does those same tasks. These reasons could help you get motivated when you feel otherwise.

Everything you do in this world has an impact on those around you, even something like brushing your teeth. If you brush your teeth you can have a conversation with another person without worry about your bad breath or the irritation you are causing to that person. Well I think we can find a good reason for the tasks we are supposed to do or tasks that we chose to do. Finding these reasons and pondering on them when you do not feel motivated will help you to stay on track.Thus making them a priority will help you stay on track.


Tips to Stay on Track Part-1

Set goals

This is one of the most important steps to stay on track with anything you are doing. Making a to-do list for each day will help you remember what you are supposed to do. Don’t worry, I am not referring to a schedule or a time table. A to-do list may comprise of reminders for the deadline of an assignment, or for a test, or a skype call with your parents/friends, or for grocery shopping.

A planner, a diary or even a simple note book can be used to jot down your to-do list. I have my to-do list on my phone, but I also found it useful when I kept it in a place where I could see. And so I use sticky notes to write down each day’s list and then post it on my window, cupboard or any place you look at every day.

Making your goals reasonable is very important as if it is too much there is a higher chance that you would give up on the task. Thus when you are trying to plan out your goals for a week or month, make sure you split it into smaller tasks. For example, it is better if you do not set apart one day to just do all your call appointments, or to work on your assignment. A variety in activity for each day will keep you from getting bored.


Love Like Jesus

The pursuit to become like Jesus is something that every Christian is encouraged to do.  My current devotion is on loving like Jesus. When I first started it I thought ‘I’m perfect in this area but I’ll just meditate on this as a reminder’. Turns out I’m not perfect in this area.  Loving like Jesus is just a piece of cake for some but for others it’s not so easy. Here are a few things to practice in this process.

  1. Put others first

This doesn’t mean that you have to forget about yourself and only think about others and what you could do for them. This is more of not being selfish when it comes to helping others. At times we are so comfortable in our place that even though we clearly see that someone is in need we refuse to acknowledge that we saw it. Whenever Jesus saw that someone needs help he stopped and helped them no matter what he was doing and where he was going. This speaks love.

2. Love the unlovable

There is an old saying that “hurt people hurt people.” Wounded people wound others and in the process become the unlovable. It’s is very hard to love those people who have hurt you even if it is someone you care about. Just the thought of what they did could boil your blood. Well if we have to be like Jesus we have to love these people.  The key here is to focus on the person rather than the things they do. There is  some good in everyone, It’s just that some things people do are unacceptable. It is easy to love a good person but hard to love someone who doesn’t really deserve it. Like someone who is always rude, someone who never give a thought for you. Jesus loved the people who were rude to him and has asked us to love such people.

Love and be loved.

 


What to Do When You Are Mad at Your Parents

I get upset with my parents quite often. It could be because of something they said, did or didn’t do. It’s easier to let go when it has happened just a few times, but as years go by the number keeps going up and it hits a threshold. Once it hits  the threshold, things might get out of hand because you’re out of control and they are mad that you talking or behaving like this. Here are a few tips you could use to tell you parents that you are mad at them.

  • Calm yourself down

It’s not a wise idea to talk to your parents when you are angry at them. What could happen is that, you might end up saying something you don’t mean to or raise your voice at them. These are both things I’ve done, and this just makes the situation worse. So the best thing to do is to keep away while you are angry. Washing your face, going out for a walk, listening to some music are all things that help. What I do is that, I take a piece of paper and try to write what goes through my head (remember to shred the paper as it is not something you want your parents to come across). This is an amazing way to calm yourself down and to articulate your ideas.

  • Plan your conversation to your parents

While calming yourself down, try and think of what made you angry and why it made you angry. Go over it again and again. This will help you to stay focused while talking to your parent and to not say anything that you don’t really mean.

  • Talk to your parent

Yes, this is the hardest part. I don’t know if parents realize when they have hurt their children. So when you walk up to them this might be the last thing on their mind. The key here is to let them know you want to tell them something that is burdening you. This is a great start because parents do want to know what is burdening their child. Once that is established go ahead and tell them. If they try to cut you off in between let them do so and wait for them to finish. Even if you get upset again try your best not to express it. As that would not make the situation better. The trick here is to not raise your voice at your parent as that is “disrespectful”. If I could keep clam while talking to my parents when I’m angry, then I bet anyone can. This is easy as you might have to wait for some time till the anger and the hurt subsides so that you don’t hurt them in the process.

  • Resolve your problem

While talking, find ways to resolve the issue. The key here is to suggest ways in which both you and your parents can improve. This way you can keep the situation as calm as it should be.  

  • Get everything out

These times are rare so take the most of it and get your issue out. I believe that if a relationship has to go strong and good, then people should voice their feelings in a clam manner. Thus addressing your feelings to your parent is also important.

I’ve not lived so many years, but these are things I’ve observed from trial and error. It’s not always easy to talk to your parent about such things, especially about how they’ve made you angry, because you have no clue in how they will react. Well it’s always worth a shot.